conformity....

from wiki

"Conformity is the act of matching attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors to what individuals perceive is normal of their society or social group."

When you profess to be "different" or decalre that you refuse to "conform" to soceity's expectation... I've found (in my limited experience) it usually means you're simply rejecting one standard and following another.

For example, some women who wear the hijab - tell me - they're not "conforming" by not having to worry about their appearence. But ironically the woman who said that to me spends 30mins longer on getting dressed than I do. (It takes me 10 mins max on an average day (quick shower and then drag my clothes on).)

An acquaintance mentioned that she's refusing to "conform" by wearing what she wants. But I've noticed that she spends far too much effort choosing a dress sense that would make her look "different", which is conforming to the "alternative" (you may ponder - alternative to "what"??? AND is there realy an "alternative"???)

Many people dress to look "stand out" and some people dress to "blend in" and some people are just indifferent (with me it depends on my mood).

Dressing up can be Art.

I don't care if every other girl "has it", or no one follows it.

My dress code is usually "comfort" but when its not, it can also be a form of expression. Hence, I refuse to limit myself by labelling my choice. Or rejecting certain styles (hey you might even see me wear.... UGGS - eekk!).

My dress sense doesn't dictate me.

I refuse to let it "define" me.

It changes with my mood and how I feel. Not whom I follow, or what sect, group or society I belong to. I'm far too whacky a personality to be "recognised" by "what I wear"....

The Problem with being a Bengali Male…

1. if you belong to the “streets” – then the style of choice is to resemble an
incapacitated monkey, which usually necessitates wearing jeans hanging down to
your knees… this may look ALMOST ok on TALL broad-shouldered black boys BUT
GET THIS – you’re Bengali and a dwarf.


2. Sporting a beard, praying 5 times a day and avoiding “Khafir’s” while you claim
benefits does NOT make a worthy person. You’re a “Daily Mail” subject matter.


3. Fathering a child in your early twenties while your wife pretends to be a SINGLE MUM (in order to grab a council house and claim housing benefits) is NOT “settling down” – it means - GET THIS - you’re a LOSER.


4. if you’re a professional with a few letters after your name – that DOES NOT ENTITLE
you to think you resemble John Abraham, Brad Pitt or Wentworth Miller.


5. if you’re taller than 5 foot 7 that does NOT equate to being TALL. (Please stand
beside a non-Bengali if you don’t believe me.)


6. if you’re taller than 5 foot 9 that does NOT equate to being 6 foot.


7. Street Boys (again) - saying “All&h-douh’wai amar maar-khos’um” and “Wal’laahee”
after every sentence does not convince me you’re telling the truth. Particularly
when you follow this religious dialogue with profanities or speaking about your next
drug heist


7. I’m sorry guys, but let me break this to you gently…. DRIVING a BMW does NOT
make YOU a BIG MAN …. or a “Gangstaa blud”


8. Driving with your seat back (and only the top of your head showing above the
dash board) – looks STUPID not MANLY.


9. Having your name on the Title Deed of 5 houses (situated in East London) does
NOT equate to wealth…. Dude let me let you in on a secret… YOU’RE IN DEBT.

10. Working class Bengali Boys – having children “young” so that you can avoid
being an “old dad” won’t be appreciated by your offspring if it means:
a. you’re not financially or emotionally ready to be a dad
b. not mature enough, and
c. use their child benefit money to pay for your Sky subscription or fags –(TRY and save it. Please.)

11. Bragging is a PUT OFF.


12. Wearing designer labels does not make you CLASSY


13. Wearing SUPERDRY does not make you TRENDY



17. Going on holiday 2 times a year does NOT give you “world traveller” status


14. Just because you can name a few musicals, have watched a few black and
white French movies, and know who Chaucer, Alexander Pope, EM Foster, Oscar
Wilde, George Orwell, Charles Dickens or Jane Austen etc is… does NOT make thee
cultured…



15. Randomly quoting Aquinas, Descartes, Aristotle, Chomsky or Hume won’t make
you sound intelligent…


16. Telling a girl that you “might consider marrying her” (as though bestowing a
huge honour) is the biggest JOKE to date.



17. Marrying a virgin won’t hide the fact you’ve got a small…. And your performance
is cr*ap… Coz even virgins can measure up without using a comparison…



18. Lastly, at the enormous risk of causing offence… telling your girlfriend to wear
a hijab and cover up (now that she’s dating you) is like me asking you to acquire a
brain…

The Problem with being a Bengali Female…

1. Gossiping is NOT a recognised hobby. GET A LIFE (you know who you are)

2. Just because you’ve married a total LOSER does NOT mean your friends who
are single are FUSSY. Not everyone can sustain torture.

3. Wearing a hijab does not equate to “practising”

4. You’re slim, have full lips, are fair-skinned (with foundation on) and wear green
contacts… and all of a sudden you’re Aishwarya Rai

5. Giving birth to kids is not an “accomplishment”

6. Buying designer clothes for your kids is not giving them a “good life”

7. You’re slim, fair-skinned and have an oval face… and now you think you’re
Katrina Kaif (someone needs to go Spec Savers!)

8. Dragging your kids with you to social gatherings is only allowed by Vicky
Pollard.

9. If the “quality” of men available decreases as a woman gets older…. Than…
(you women who married at a young age) – what happened to your husband?

10.Not ALL “hijabi’s” are “undercover”

11. Being SINGLE is not the worse thing you could be… There is much
worse… like being married to a typical Bengali male (that’s 75% of the
population)

12. Its takes more than having kids at a young age to be a good mum.

13. You always put an extra inch or two on your height. Just because you can
get away with being 5 foot 4 or 5 foot 5 - does NOT mean you are.

14. Wearing a hijab while dressed in jeggins and wearing full-on make up is
FUNNY.

15. Listening to Jay Sean or Mumsy Stranger is not RnB.

16. Constantly discussing your matrimonial problems (what your mother-
inlaw or husband said) is TEDIOUS. Seek counselling.

17. You have a Drivers Licence and now your Jeremy Clarkson

18. You’re a size 6 and so weight is a topic in every conversation, particularly
when men are within the vicinity

19. The TV is not a child minder

My bio-data if you're interested

Name: Miss Wishing-for-John-Abraham Choudhry

Age: 21 for the past 10 yrs (everything works - that’s enough)

Height: If you’re Bengali you’ll need a ladder regardless


Occupation: Waiting-To-Be-A-Wife, otherwise Director of Communication & Retail
This entails emailing my friends all day, gossiping, checking out guys and online shopping
Employer: Idiots PLC (they assume I work)

Education: Masters in Shopping, Eating Out, and Enjoying Holidays Abroad.

Email: pure-hotstuff&gagging-for-it@hotmail.com


Family Details:

Father’s Name: Mr Can’t-Be-Asked Choudhury PhD, PSS-TAKE, Msc
Occupation: Retired Benefits Cheat & former Restaurant Owner (which made no money)Grandfather’s Name: He’s dead – why get him involved????
Vill: It’s deserted – why bother???
Post: Jognathpur, Sylhet

Mother's Name: Mrs Always-Thinking-Of-Shom’maan Begum
Occupation: S Chanel & Bangali TV critic; actively participates in Local News (when having tea at neighbours house). Occcasionally works for the Bengali CIA, which entails spying at girls through windows.

Maternal Grandfather’s Name: Mr Doesn’t-Want-To-Know Miah (no letters sorry)
Vill: Some backwards sh*it.
Post: This is getting boring

Family Composition: 2 brothers, 1 sisters

1. Eldest Sister: Mrs Bhoutlee Khan
Occupation: Eats-All-Day & Watches TV
Martial Status: Married
Spouse: Mr Bhoutlaa Khan BSc in BSing, (from Stupid Bari, Sylhet)
Occupation: Control Freak Bank

2. Eldest brother: Mr Boi-thaal Choudhury
Martial Status: There's a freshie waiting for him (fash'fort baby!)
Current Occupation: Head of Dealing – Class A Drugs, Whitechapel, London
Education: Masters in Class A Substance Abuse

3. Brother: Mr Loser Choudhury
Current Occupation: Occupant of HM Belmarsh Prison, London
Education: Bachelor of Arts in Breaking & Entering

There's 8 more siblings to go... I think we'll end it there

Why??

Questions…

21. Why do Bengali male Doctor’s always feel this need to mention their job in almost every conversation? (YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE)

22. Why does the average Bengali Boy assume it’s normal to be fixated by one’s mother? Dude – “mummy boys” are seriously unattractive

23. Why do Bengali Boys working within IT in banking think their a “banker”? Dude you’re a geek servicing bankers… Duh.